Sex. The word has the kind of ring that resonates in the chambers of your mind. Like a cathedral bell that chimes and tolls with special meaning, hidden meaning… and somehow society has managed to counteract humanity’s most primordial act of selflessness in time memorial as something which is taboo, unceremonious, unholy and callous.

Look at the animal kingdom. Look at the pick ‘n order links of nature’s food chain. There are animals that are driven by instinct and a desire to survive and then there are humans who are dependant on their instinct to assimilate, amalgamate and breed for purposes unknown even to them. The ONLY time that humanity doesn’t spend time manipulating, vindicating their flaws, sucking on the glory and pathos of their dead-weight existence and basically terminating each other for gain, sport and profit is when they fuck.

This is a truth of life. It is. And the truth loves to make sushi out of the surrealists and illusionists. Now… back to the lesson of the day. It is understood that sex is an integral part of the human existence, a frivolous and sometimes overly characterized act of one’s being, and if one measures the pros and cons please tell me it does more bad than good? You can’t can you? ‘Cos it doesn’t do more bad than good.

Like all aspects of life which are tainted, prefabricated and warped sex has become synonymous with the blatant acts endorsed by laid back culturists and immoralists if viewed through the tire hub of a religious extremist’s cracked rear view mirror, at the same time it is a scene of contrition from the pages of an age old satirical play on life’s insipid stage, it is also a very sophisticated engagement that varies from individual to individual and more often than not… it’s about passionately expressing one’s abundant love, lust and affection for another in the climax of the physical world’s most sanctified endeavor.

Why do people have such a terrible time separating the subjective from the objective? Our background, upbringing, cultural backdrop, demography, education, living conditions and belief systems play a large part in determining our perceptions and views of life. It’s fine to kiss different people over and over again but it is not fine to make love or lust to different people over and over again. It’s alright to lie, cheat, retain arrogance and obstinacy, be self centered, obsessed over wealth, status and power, hurt the people we love because those are accepted as a part of life’s progressions however sex is something that must be preserved for kingdom come and not be exploited because it loses its sacredness. :crazy:

I respect the numerous views that people have regarding sex. Because sex has been painted by society and religion as something dirty, something impure and something that must be curtailed and anesthetized because it makes people do things they didn’t know they could. I say too much of anything is bad for us. And this we also know. Too much water affects the white blood count in a person’s body. Too much consumption of sweets is bad for us as well. Too much TV is bad. Reading too much without taking a break is bad for our eyes. Listening to music without a break at large volumes could result in tinnitus. Hitting the gym without a proper schedule, breaks in-between and proper warming up and down methods is bad.

Too much of EVERYTHING is bad. Too much of NOTHING is also bad.

Now for those who wish to preserve their sexual integrity until marriage - is a respectable notion that we must value. I won’t tolerate arguments where some might say it’s foolish or immature. That’s a personal choice. Others need to have sex the way they breathe… and although it doesn’t agree with my appetite I say that’s fine too. Sex which is diluted, tainted and blemished is wrong. Clear cut wrong. The sex trade, sexual abuse of children, under-aged sex or sex without protection with random partners… I believe it’s understood that these things are just… wrong because they are irresponsible and guarantee a negative outcome.

But sex in itself to be judged and blacklisted because it doesn’t agree with our beliefs, our moral points of view and upbringing… that’s just silly. It’s like saying ‘since I don’t agree with people who drive fast like maniacs I don’t like cars’.

People cannot communicate and express their desires by words, actions and thoughts ONLY. There is a reason why organized society tries so hard to retain its equilibrium with regulations, guidelines and ideological principals. The order of the world must be maintained by a higher power and by a greater emblem that represents humanity as a whole or else there would be no control. Religion, Family Values and Societal Laws are essential to maintain the balance… and possibly more than that.

However it does scar existence at the same time. Good and evil are confused. Bad and good become like a game of snakes and ladders. Morality is a mask and living is our masquerade.
We are taught to ignore the way we really feel because that would just be giving into the ways of an evil world.

I’ve realized that the world isn’t evil. It’s people that make it evil. And the abstinence of experiencing life’s ups and downs in itself isn’t bad, but condemning and judging those who embark responsibly and yet freely on experiencing such things is ridiculous.

I personally don’t like hippies. Meaning I have no issue with their lifestyle or the fact that they are hippies. It’s just that I believe they had their place and time and somehow ended up contradicting the very core of their own existence after their reign. The hippie culture worked in the 60’s… it can’t and will not work now. So let’s say I don’t agree with people who are stuck on re-living a time gone by because what was applicable 40 years ago cannot be 100% relevant now. But the impact and influence they had on organized society cannot be ignored. The hippies with all their good and bad did manage to stop civil wars, political corruption and apartheid and opened the hearts of the public to live their lives void of prejudices, racism and hatred. I believe they did much more good in upholding the human spirit and the greater aspects of existence than any religious extremist or political propagandist (a very cool person taught me a new word). Peace, Love, Hope and Harmony were practiced and preached throughout the 60’s and 70’s despite the heavy intoxicant abuse and free thinking lifestyle. Like I said pros and cons. Everything has pros and cons. Life has so many contradictions that you need to get a grip on reality, fantasy AND everything in between to begin to understand why it is so important for us to see and read between the lines. And isn’t that the human plight? To always understand what we cannot fathom? To always seek what is never ours? To always plunge into the unknown? To secretly admire the mysteries of the universe but be too afraid to ride the cosmic waves?

Sex has its bad and it has its good. But if you sketch the bigger picture what harm does passionate, pre-cautioned and psychotic sex do? Does it make monsters of men and women? Does it make us forget our priorities? Does it make us ungrateful of life’s wonders and miracles? No. No. And No.

Love is a part of sex. Lust is a part of sex. Lust is a savage alter ego of love. Intercourse is a part of sex but sex isn’t ONLY about intercourse. Foreplay is a vital part of sex. Therefore making love and making lust are fragments of its denominator. It is a beautiful thing. A simple thing. A complex thing. And something that shouldn’t be shunned because it has a generalized moniker of indecency to its good name. Relationships shouldn’t be based solely on sex, but to discard it as insignificant is also very foolish. You don’t climb a mountain and quit before you reach its zenith.

What is it that makes a relationship tick and tock? Love? Understanding? Trust? Faith? Passion? Commitment? Humor? It is a state of bliss solidified by the psychological, emotional, spiritual and physical. Sex is non-verbal communication (with certain obvious exceptions)… the expression of ones most inherent feelings in a physical sense. It is the sanctified act of displaying the deepest, darkest most sincere emotional truths through the interlocking of two souls conjoining in flesh and rapture.

It doesn’t make it meaningless. Or less meaningful. It doesn’t make it an embosomed farce or a fallacy. It has its value. It has its significance. It has its twisted sense of purity and absolution that merely defers from the norm. Doesn’t anything that isn’t measured in face value defer from the norm anyway? Conformists will ‘make love’ eventually. Traditionalists will depend on their missionary position till eternity weeps no more. Experimentalists will take the S.E.X outta the word and re-arrange it. It still is what it is. No one makes ‘Moral’ love nah? No one really jumps into the saddle and thinks ‘boy, am I glad I preserved myself for you’.

For some it’s a sport, for others a lifestyle, for some a livelihood, for others a therapeutic voyage, for some a tropical fruit salad, for others a need to vent and release…

Subjectively one can say I prefer this to that because THIS means more to me than THAT.

Objectively one cannot say it’s wrong and silly because it contradicts ‘what I’ve been shown, taught and brought up to believe’.

It is the plot, the twist, the climax and anti-climax of physical communication and communion.

A forest is nourished by both the sun and rain. You’ve heard that old song ‘sometimes love just ain’t enough’. Through all the emotional monopoly and mind-games and paradoxes all species on this earth need to make love, lust and get jiggy with it. |-|

‘Cos sometimes actions do speak louder than words.

And where would we all be without the power of words and the power of actions? Trial and error… trial and error… triumph and tragedy… life would be quite hollow and empty wouldn’t it?